Funny or strange thoughts about love continue to come and go like unwanted visitors of many healthy relationships. Have you heard about the so-called “5 Bs” that a man must require from a woman before deciding to marry her? I was a high schooler when I first heard some strange thoughts about love. They said that the ideal woman has “5 Bs,” the acronym for 1) Beauty; 2) Brain; 3) Background; 4) Behavior; and 5) Bank Book.
Understanding erotic love. The love of the opposite sex is very unstable among our youth. Why? Because of the idealism of the young for perfection, fame, money, and good looks. Hence, a long engagement is essential before marriage. The lovers need to first clear up the cobwebs of youthful dreams for a life partner. For proof that it is so, one study shows that a year of relationship before marriage is much better compared to a rush union.
Jun P. Espina 1 min read
Updated on November 22nd, 2022
Mother Teresa once said that “I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love,” while Erich Fromm taught that “Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you.’” Between men and lovely women, however, a love requiring reciprocal affection is more natural and human. I don’t think the marriage will last without such chemistry at home.
Divorce is needed when the marital union only brings harm to the life of the spouses and the children as well. Otherwise, divorce should not be taken as an option for mere incompatibility or misunderstanding.