Written: February 27, 2013 | Updated on February 17th, 2020 | Jun P. Espina
Excellent wife—where are you? Well, how to find an excellent wife? Why is it that many beautiful women have become abused or divorcees and unloved while the ordinary-looking ones have already buried two husbands? It is because of a pride of their looks—that they have beauty enough to start a war?
Hence, God asked:
An Excellent Wife Calls Her Husband “Lord”
Yes, no commandment from God for the wives to love but to OBEY and SUBMIT to their own husbands, just like Sarah who called Abraham “lord.” Note 1 Peter 3:6: “[L]ike Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.” The husband, from another angle, should leave his parents, join with his wife and become one flesh with her. The apostle Paul also said the husband must die for his wife since he must love her as his own body. (Eph. 5:22-33) May I repeat. God requires the wife to submit to her husband and obliges the latter to love and die for his spouse. No command for the wife to love and die for her husband, but only to obey. Google it if you’re unsure. An excellent wife thus, walks along with these parameters in the marital union.
It surprised me the first time I learned that God requires the older women to TRAIN the young women to love their husbands. It is the Word of God; I honor its divine inspiration. It says that a woman’s love to her husband may melt away. It requires a form of tutorial from the older and more experienced women. The old women’s syllabus for the young wives includes a) how to love the children (don’t abort them); b) how to be sensible, pure, and workers at home. Observe Titus 2:3-5:
The excellent wife is also sensible and a worker at home, giving priority to the children and not to Facebook.
How to Qualify as Excellent Wife?
So, so easy! Just let your husband open your cellular phone and your Facebook page freely. An excellent wife never hides her text messages to her husband, for it is evil in the sight of God. Fear your husband as you fear the Lord. For “charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but she who FEARS the Lord, she shall be PRAISED.” (Prov. 31:30)
“An excellent wife never hides her text messages to her husband, for it is evil in the sight of God. Fear your husband as you fear the Lord.”
Some Other Traits of an Excellent Wife
The excellent wife is a good mother. She is doing everything to help raise the children. Her husband and children praise her so heartily.She looks well to the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and bless her; Her husband also, and he praises her, saying: “Many daughters have done nobly, But you excel them all.” (Prov. 31:27-29)
A GOOD WIFE
The excellent wife is a super life partner. From the Bible perspective, she is giving honor to her husband. “Her husband is known in the gates,” says Proverbs 31:23, “when he sits among the elders of the land.” In verse 11, “her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain.” “No lack of gain” means that the wife is not a liability, to use a business term.
Read Also: Of God’s Command to Obey
An excellent wife must be a “helper-to-the-husband” material, not the “I’m better than you” type. Observe God’s word in Genesis 2:18: “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” The word “helper” does not mean “maid,” neither does it mean a “parasite” or pure “baby factory” in the house.
Our clue to unlock the word “helper” is the term “suitable for him” or for Adam. Second, God did not create Eve, the mother of Jesus Christ, to be of inferior species.
Blessed with beauty and brain, a career woman who is disrespecting her husband disqualifies herself as an excellent wife. We mentioned above that God requires the wife to be submissive to her own husband.
Another trait of an excellent wife is positive-mindedness, not a negative-minded nagger and trouble-maker.
In Proverbs 31:21, God said that “She is not afraid of the snow for her household, For all her household are clothed with scarlet.”
Not only that the excellent wife is optimistic, but she is also a decision-maker. “She considers a field and buys it; From her earnings she plants a vineyard.” (Prov. 31:16)
The excellent wife is a workaholic and looking for ways to have a work to do. It is written in Proverbs 31:13 that she “works with her hands in delight.”