Jun P. Espina         4 min read
Updated on November 21st, 2022
Excellent wife—where are you? Well, how to find an excellent wife? Why is it that many beautiful women have become abused or divorcees and unloved while the ordinary-looking ones have already buried two husbands? It is because of pride in their looks—that they have beauty enough to start a war?
Hence, God asked:
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An Excellent Wife Calls Her Husband “Lord”
Yes, no commandment from God for the wives to love but to OBEY and SUBMIT to their own husbands, just like Sarah, who called Abraham “lord.” Note 1 Peter 3:6: “[L]ike Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.” The husband, from another angle, should leave his parents, join his wife, and become one flesh with her.
The apostle Paul also said the husband must die for his wife since he must love her as his own body. (Eph. 5:22-33) May I repeat? God requires the wife to submit to her husband and obliges the latter to love and die for his spouse. There is no command for the wife to love and die for her husband, but only to obey. Google it if you’re unsure. An excellent wife, therefore, walks along with these parameters in the marital union.
It surprised me the first time I learned God requires older women to TRAIN young women to love their husbands. It is the Word of God; I honor its divine inspiration. It says that a woman’s love for her husband may melt away. It requires tutorials from older and more experienced women. The old women’s syllabus for young wives includes: a) how to love the children (don’t abort them); b) how to be sensible, pure, and hard workers at home. Observe Titus 2:3-5:
The ideal wife prioritizes the children before Facebook and is practical and hardworking at home.
How to Qualify as an Excellent Wife
So, so easy! Just let your husband open your cell phone and your Facebook page freely. An excellent wife never hides her text messages from her husband, for it is evil in the sight of God. Fear your husband as you fear the Lord. For “charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but she who FEARS the Lord, she shall be PRAISED.” (Prov. 31:30)
Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her.—Ephesians 5:22-25
Some Other Traits of an Excellent Wife
An excellent wife must be “helper-to-the-husband” material, not the “I’m better than you” type. Observe God’s word in Genesis 2:18:
The word “helper” does not mean “maid,” nor does it mean a “parasite” or pure “baby factory” in the house.
Our clue to unlock the word “helper” is the term “suitable for him” or suitable for Adam. Second, God did not create Eve, the mother of Jesus Christ, to be of an inferior species.
Blessed with beauty and brain, a career woman who is disrespecting her husband disqualifies herself as an excellent wife. We mentioned above that God requires the wife to be submissive to her own husband.
Another trait of an excellent wife is positive-mindedness—not being a negative-minded nag and troublemaker. In Proverbs 31:21, God said,
Not only is the excellent wife optimistic, but she is also a decision-maker.
“She considers a field and buys it; From her earnings she plants a vineyard.” (Prov. 31:16)
The excellent wife is a workaholic and looking for ways to have work to do. It is written in Proverbs 31:13 that she “works with her hands in delight.”
She is like merchant ships; She brings her food from afar. She rises also while it is still night And gives food to her household And portions to her maidens. She girds herself with strength And makes her arms strong.(Prov. 31:14-15;17)
The excellent wife is an exemplary mother. She is doing everything to help raise the children. Her husband and children praise her so heartily.
“She looks well to the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and bless her; Her husband also, and he praises her, saying: ‘Many daughters have done nobly, But you excel them all.’” (Prov. 31:27-29)
A GOOD WIFE
The excellent wife is a super-life partner. From the Bible’s perspective, she is giving honor to her husband. “Her husband is known in the gates,” says Proverbs 31:23, “when he sits among the elders of the land.” In verse 11, “her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain.” “No lack of gain” means that the wife is not a liability, to use a business term.