Jun P. Espina         3 min read
Updated on November 21st, 2022
Happy Family Via a Common Faith
One rich man told his audience: “Well, I often told my children that success is not just pure hard work, for there are many hardworking businessmen who didn’t make it to the top. I believe in luck!” Do you think this principle also applies to marriage? Building a happy family requires conviction and faith. Call it luck, but I have another term for that: God’s blessing and intervention.
In Psalm 127:1, it says,
No truly happy family without God (or religion, if you prefer) at the center of the home. Building a happy family requires the building of trust and confidence between spouses. And a common faith in God is the key to reaching that.
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Impossible to Have a Happy Family Outside of Faithfulness
I heard about one OFW (Overseas Filipino Worker) who died of a heart attack after learning that his wife was having an affair.
The mother of the man was horrified to learn that all the properties had been moved into the name of her unfaithful daughter-in-law, and the paramour was already living in the large home her adored son had built!
It is a story common among OFWs.
Unless God interferes, a happy family is tough to build, since the home is our Maker’s design. We always need His spiritual leadership and guidance.
The involvement of a third party is death for the family. We saw promising marital unions, that ended up in divorce because the wife or husband was having an affair. God abhors unfaithfulness. We find this truth relevant to the health of the marital blend:
The spouses who have a fear of the Lord have more chances of succeeding in the marital odyssey than those with no spiritual armor against the onslaught of the lust of the flesh.
Allow God to Give Us a Happy Family
Do you want to build a happy family and keep your loved ones forever? If so, avoid having an illicit relationship. Be honest with your life partner. Let your spouse discover once in a while the clutter of your mobile phone. Be transparent. Work hard while you still have the strength and trust in God.
Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife… But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her… So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh… For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh…. you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband. (Eph. 5:22-33)
Are You Dreaming of a Happy Family?
Let me ask you once more: Are you dreaming of a happy family? This is important because those who failed in their marriages don’t have a happy family formula. What they have is fault-finding and a bent toward rebellion against their spouses. We mentioned that faith in God and transparency are essential elements in building a triumphant marital bond. But if you are not dreaming of a happy family, you are like someone building a house without a master plan.
I knew of a man named Fred, whose dream was to have a successful marriage. But things got rough on him and his wife, so he sought God and became a born-again Christian. His love for his wife has led him to ask for our Lord’s intervention in their flawed relationship. His wife slandered him every day because of his meager income.
Over time, our Lord gave him a high-paying job, and his wife embraced his faith in Christ. Fred’s wife changed her ways. She became easier to love and live with.
Without Fred’s determination to iron out the kinks in his marital cracks, he could have divorced his beloved wife.
With God, there is always a happy family formula.
Do you have a secret about how to build a happy family? Please let me know in the comment section below so we can share meaningful marital tips.