Jun P. Espina         2 min read
Updated on November 22nd, 2022
There are tons of reasons divorce is needed or NOT needed. It is required when the marital union is harmful to the spouses and the children as well, or not needed at all if the marriage doesn’t pose any actual and grave danger to the life of all family members.
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A. When will Divorce be Unnecessary?
1. When LOVE is Still Alive Between Spouses.
Infidelity is one big problem. But some can forgive. After all, love covers a multitude of sins (cf. 1 Peter 4:8). Forgive and save the dying marriage. Doing so is good for you and the children.
If the problem is a bad attitude, for example, of the lazy and jobless husband, my suggestion is still to save the marriage. Remember the words of Christ: “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Matt. 19:6).
If the sinning spouse is unrepentant, well, even God said: “REMOVE THE WICKED MAN [or WOMAN] FROM AMONG YOURSELVES. (1 Cor. 5:13)
2. When There is Another Solution Available.
One solution to a breaking marital union is the willingness of both spouses to give the fight a truce or a cooling-off period. Hasty decisions are never allowed in such a vast issue as divorce.
If the problem is a bad attitude, for example, of the lazy and jobless husband, my suggestion is still to save the marriage. Remember the words of Christ: “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Matt. 19:6)
Among middle-aged spouses (40 and above), there’s a need by the husband to Google the declining interest of most wives in sex. Never take it as a lack of love, but as a lack of sexual urge. After reaching the menopausal age, women will play hard-to-get already. Again, this is not a love issue, but rather, one of a more female physiological nature that all responsible husbands should know. The Muslim’s teaching and practice, marrying up to four wives, is neither an excellent solution. To Christians, doing so is a sin, and sin will never help save a bleeding marriage.
3. When There is Fear of God.
God said that marrying a divorcee is adultery (cf. Matt. 19:5-9). However, a divorced person engages oneself immediately in another trial-and-error relationship. Choosing the best prospect in this “search” is not a top priority anymore. The missing companionship of a spouse is the impulse of the moment. Sometimes one will meet and decide to “marry” someone worse than one’s former wife or husband. “The more a thing changes, the more it remains the same,” goes a cliche. Divorce, therefore, is never a good option!
4. When Divorce Can Mean Nothing More Than Death to the Children’s Future.
Divorce is the number one drug pusher, hooker-recruiter, hope-killer, and social-problem prime mover. Saving one’s marriage, by all means, is always a good Christian philosophy.
B. When will Divorce be Necessary?
1. When the Life of Either of the Spouses is Endangered.
The poisoning of a husband or wife is not uncommon. Second, sometimes the life of the spouse is threatened for financial or other reasons.
2. When a Marital Breakup is Considered a Better Option.
Sometimes divorce is the only better alternative. Children are so affected, for example, because their parents don’t love each other anymore.
The Lord Jesus Christ said that divorce is just the result of our wickedness.
“So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to GIVING HER A CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE AND SEND her AWAY?” He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way. “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” (Matt. 19:6-9 NASB)
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