How do you keep your husband’s love? Or where shall we get the wisest counsel on how to make your man continue to love you? Of course, the light always comes from the Holy Bible. Martin Luther (where the Lutheran church got its name), for example, has this piece of advice: “Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave.” To keep your husband’s love is easy if you are the typical Bible-described wife. God said that the woman must obey her husband.
In trying to trace the usual cause of the breakdown of the family, we sometimes see the woman as the primary culprit of the marital collapse. And the reason is the failure to fulfill the biblical call for the wife to obey her husband.
Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. —Ephesians 5:22.
Many wives (not just a few) tend to be more unfaithful than husbands in most families, according to a survey conducted in the U.S. This sudden shift of evil is due mainly to the fluidity of women’s occupational inclinations these days as compared to males’ more mechanical choices.
As a result, women are now more mobile, having more opportunities to earn money for the family. Adultery is likely committed by the one considered more powerful financially between husband and wife. The divine command to obey the husband becomes difficult, especially if the man is jobless and irresponsible. How can the husband’s love be kept when the primary agenda of his woman is to leave him?
“How can the husband’s love be kept when the primary agenda of his woman is to leave him?”
Like most men, some women want to be unfaithful while also desiring to keep the family together. It is one instance in the marital demeanor of adding insult to injury.
This obnoxious trend is very alarming. When true Christian morality tumbles, then the cord of evil will drag our society down to the waters of extreme wickedness and suffering. The husband’s love cannot grow when the woman dominates the marital system as invented by God. The woman’s disobedience is the number one terminator of her husband’s love for her. It is so clear from the Holy Bible that the divine order is for the wives to “be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.”
Some say that infidelity starts with temptation or the desire for change, reassurance, appeal, etc. These are up for grabs for any working person. The workplace may spark the fire of unfaithfulness to one’s spouse. It is much easier for the woman to change partners, however, since biblically she is not required to love but to obey her husband. (cf. Eph. 5:22) With a man, loving a woman is difficult. Not only that. He is required, according to the Scriptures, to die for his love for his wife.
Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife…. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her…. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church . . .. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.
—Ephesians 5:22-31
The Husband’s Love Versus the Difficulty of Loving One Woman
Man’s nature is to desire more wives. In 1 Corinthians 7:9, the Apostle Paul taught that “if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” The expression “burn” seems overloaded with men’s natural weakness for the opposite sex. Without some religious values and rigid self-discipline, if given a chance, a man sleeps with a woman who is not his wife.
Even our Lord Jesus taught that “everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matt. 5:28)
In Deuteronomy 5:21, Moses said:
“You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife.”
All things considered, a husband’s love is tough to build. He just wants to sleep with women, as King Solomon did, but loving just one woman is always difficult for him. The good news is that once a man loves, he always loves his girl, as he is more fixed-minded. Second, to die for his wife is just a part of his built, having been told by God to be one flesh with his wife.
For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. (Eph. 5:31)
Hence, keeping a husband’s love and deep respect is something the wife must continue to build for as long as the union stays — “till death parts us.”
As mentioned already, the key secret to building your husband’s love is to be subject to him in everything, according to God.
If you are a top executive and your man is not, the command remains: obey him—allow him to view and check (the anomalies in) your mobile phone once in a while. It is God’s basic family requirement:
“Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord…. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.” (Eph. 5:22,24)
A wife who submits herself to her husband in everything is easy to love. In Genesis 2:18, “the Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.’” The phrase “helper” is paired with “suitable,” which leads us to believe that God did not create a female for the husband’s maid. Second, it is consistent with the truth that the man and his wife are “one flesh.” The man is equal to his wife, the woman having functions (like delivering a baby) that the man cannot perform and vice versa.
To keep your husband’s love, you must obey and respect him. It is the quickest way to “tame” him, consequently.
A faithful wife—who can describe?
The strength of God is by her side
She won her husband’s love and trust
Her heart is pure—full of Christ.
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This obnoxious trend is very alarming. When true Christian morality tumbles, then the cord of evil will drag our society down to the waters of extreme wickedness and suffering. The husband’s love cannot grow when the woman dominates the marital system as invented by God. The woman’s disobedience is the number one terminator of her husband’s love for her. It is so clear from the Holy Bible that the divine order is for the wives to “be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.”
